The current situation:
“The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation” Henry Thoreau 1854
“He feels that there must be more but he does not know what that more is” Steve Biddulph
This hazardous journey is the great unknown of our lives and learning to face the fear of that, not alone but as a part of a tribe. Most men I know do live lives of quiet desperation, it is quiet because most of us don’t share our journeys with others and it feels like desperation because we do not live lives that make us burn but settle instead for less than is ours to have. We live largely unshared and un-examined lives and we suffer for it.
No great journey is ever planned or travelled alone. Great men know this and surround themselves with other great men. If we are to live fulfilled lives that inspire us then our Lone Ranger approach to life must end and we must start sharing our hazardous journeys with others.
Project Wildman is about you and your journey, setting a charter for that journey and having other strong men around you as you plot the course and sail your way through it.
So where do you want to go or who do you want to become? Big questions and best faced not alone but as a part of a tribe.
A town, a city, a country full of men who plan and share their lives with other great men will bring nothing short of social revolution.
Why Project Wildman?
I like the word tribe because it evokes a sense of belonging, community and culture that connect us. We are not necessarily family but we do journey together.
As men we actually do enjoy the company of other men, having a laugh and taking the piss out of one another whilst working or travelling together is one of life’s joys. Through our very individualistic culture the side that has been misplaced is the one of deep connection with other men and a sense of belonging, that I am a part of a group of guys who really know the mask off real me, that when times are tough I have a strong tribe of men around me for support and nourishment.
The idea is simple really and doesn’t need to be made complex – we create environments and basic structures that over time allow men to connect and journey on a deeper level.
What does Project Wildman look like?
This is not therapy this is community and a good community is therapy for the soul.
Every man is responsible for his own journey his own life and the choices he makes. We are merely creating an environment, basic format, structure and support to enable that community to grow.
In order to see what Project Wildman looks like it might also be helpful to see what it is not.
It is not men dancing naked around a fire beating drums, nor is it sensitive New Age get in touch with your inner woman stuff, it is not religious based and there is no agenda other than you and of course social revolution!
Saying all that, if you are a dancing naked around a fire beating a drum sensitive New Age religious type of guy then Project Wildman may be for you just as much as a sitting at home on the couch just looking at a fire and eating pies atheist.
My point being that all are welcome and that this journey is about creating a strong community of guys who all have different journeys and backgrounds but who all want to learn the art of the journey and that life is not a solitary Lone Ranger experience but one with rich friendships and the sharing of ones journey with others.
We need to start talking but how and where? With no real community and very few if any deep connections with others who do we talk to? Who do you share your life with, your greatest achievements and failures? Maybe a massive contributor to our marriages failing is the expectation that our spouses will carry the load that an entire community used to share.
The price of admission
Is a commitment to join a men’s group for one year and sit around a fire once a week to work towards your own personal journey and connect with other men, plus $10 per week. Although owned and run by a Charitable Trust this is not charity, this is grassroots Philanthrocapitalism. Follow us on Facebook to keep up to date with new and open groups.
Historically men have been drawn to hang out with each other but in ways that have kept the relationships somewhat shallow and unobtrusive. You could literally play rugby or go to the pub with the same group of guys for years and never really get to know anyone in a deep way. The masks stay firmly intact, “good as gold” “she’ll be right” YEAH RIGHT! We need to learn to develop deep friendships with other guys and this is the place to start that journey.
Men have been silently crying out for this for decades and we need to meet that cry!